Reviews of Growing Balls
May 19th, 2007 by Webmaster
With a frightening lack of preparation, and nothing in the way of a life preserver, our culture tosses its young males into the shark tank of adult life. It’s no wonder that so many go under, succumbing to destructive peer pressure or substance abuse or the dead end of a premature marriage. David Hafter, who has spent decades counseling teenagers and twentysomething males, offers a ray of hope in Growing Balls: Personal Power for Young Men. Despite the facetious title, this is a serious piece of work. Taking on the role of an experienced, even tempered mentor — something that’s in woefully short supply these days — Hafter neither pulls his punches nor functions as a scold. He simply gives good advice. With any luck, both young men and their loved ones (parents, siblings, spouses) will profit from this blunt and often amusing book.
– James Marcus, author of Amazonia
As the father of two teenage boys, I am very aware of the challenges and rewards facing young men today and of the need for us parents to engage in frank communication with them as they mature. David Hafter’s Growing Balls is a plain-spoken, insightful and highly readable guidebook for these critical years. It provides detailed, down-to-earth advice to both the young reader and his parents and acts as a great framework for important conversations.
William Panek, M.D.
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mr.Open…
You a right. Thank you….
Hi Mr. Open,
Thanks for coming by and leaving a comment. Many have visited but you are the first to leave a comment…
Dave
[...] This words aren’t meant to offend. Please excuse me. I’m so very sorry, but I have to post this: "To say that women love jerks is a whiny excuse Nice Guys use to explain why they’re not getting laid." "…boring Nice Guys who obey all the rules" and get walked on by (non-worthwhile) women." Said by David N. Hafter in his book. Growing Balls Blog Archive Reviews of Growing Balls __________________ And my soul hungered; and I kneeled down before my Maker, and I cried unto him in mighty prayer and supplication for mine own soul; and all the day long did I cry unto him; yea, and when the night came I did still raise my voice high that it reached the heavens. Enos 1:4 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 [...]
As for the previous comment, no offense taken as I am not exactly sure what you are trying to say here. I would like to reply substantively but don\’t know what to respond to in that the biblical references you make can be interpreted in many ways; it would make for better sharing of opinions and conversation in general if you would give a clear statement about your concerns regarding the quotes you took from the book. I would be happy to discuss them with you.
I can say that this is a book best read cover to cover; those who cherry-pick their way through it tend to find statements that can appear insensitive or sound offensive taken out of context — and for some, admittedly, offense will be taken in context, as well. Anyway, quoting scripture without *your *intended context is not enough to get me to understand your issues with the text of Growing Balls.
[...] Originally Posted by Gatsby I’m so very sorry, but I have to post this: "To say that women love jerks is a whiny excuse Nice Guys use to explain why they’re not getting laid." "…boring Nice Guys who obey all the rules" and get walked on by (non-worthwhile) women." Said by David N. Hafter in his book. Growing Balls Blog Archive Reviews of Growing Balls Someone from this site posted a comment on Mr.Hafter’s site quoting these exact words. I didn’t mean to offend anyone, didn’t think that anyone was going to take it too personally–it’s a forum. __________________ And my soul hungered; and I kneeled down before my Maker, and I cried unto him in mighty prayer and supplication for mine own soul; and all the day long did I cry unto him; yea, and when the night came I did still raise my voice high that it reached the heavens. Enos 1:4 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 [...]
I’m a member of the above forum. I think someone was just calling your attention to the fact your website was mentioned in that thread.
The post was simply a copy paste from the mention given of your thoughts. The scripture referenced was part of his signature, so it looks like a sloppy job copy/pasting.
The thread is about “Nice Guys”, etc. and problems people have dating. You’re more than welcome to join in the conversation if you have the time and care to.
Thanks,
Mike
I just want to say that I loved your book. It really helped me. Growing Balls is a must read. Thanks for writing such a great book.
Seriously I wonder who is posting that thing. Think it might be a bot or script of some kind? Anyways, now I know about the Growing Balls book, and I might have a read myself
I wonder, too. People who throw religious references like the above, thinking that the bible-speak is message-clarifying enough for anyone to get are clearly expressing some passion, which I appreciate, but out of touch with how others not of their tribe communicate.
Meanwhile, Mike, I’m glad to read that this site has sparked your interest enough to maybe have you click on the link here to get yourself a copy. I’d love to read your comments.
And Gatsby, it’s more gratifying than you may know to read a posting like yours.